Luna~Rose Blog

Would you believe us if we told you we were dying?
Why won't you believe us?
You say this isn't the time to get radical and change too much.
you say this isn't the time for revolution.
Then I want to know when the hell it's ever going to change
because something needs to give.
Today is the day for the world to change.
Today is the day for the revolution.

Posted to my Wordpress blog:
You don't forgive for them, you forgive for you.
You forgive to take the burden off your heart, it has nothing to do with them. Forgiveness is letting go. You let go of your hurt, anger, and bitterness.

Remember, it is in fact your hurt, pain, and anger; not theirs.
Forgiveness gives you space to move on with your life.
It doesn't mean letting someone treat you badly if you do keep the relationship.

What it does mean if you keep the relationship is that you give that person a place they can move forward from and heal from.
You give them the ability to move past your anger, hurt, and bitterness to. You let them move on in their relationship with you.

You don't hold some slight against them forever because they become frozen there and can't move forward and grow.
The entire relationship becomes stunted because no matter what they do, they can't be good enough in your eyes ever again.
Without forgiveness from you nothing they ever do will be good enough.

Ultimately the person you are really stunting is yourself.
If you block out the so that other people around you can't grow, you won't grow either. If the won't shine on them, it won't shine on you.

Its not fair to hold the past against someone so they are always bending over backwards to please you when they have no idea where it went wrong or that you are even holding something against them. People that subject other people to that sort of torture are jackasses. Only a really, nasty, selfish pig would do that to someone else to their own advantage because they owe them.

What is important is that you talk to them about the hurt, no matter how long ago it happened. Maybe they really have no idea they hurt you that way and you'll open their eyes. Maybe you'll help them to become more considerate people. Then again, maybe they'll decide you are a petty jerk and want nothing more to do with you.

So first really think about your part in the hurt first. Did you have unreasonable expectations such as burdensome moral rules you imposed upon them. In the meantime maybe they just think you are a self absorbed jerk and maybe you are, nursing a slight you have no business nursing. They have no way of knowing unless you tell them.